Most of the top of this post is lifted straight from the article in the Daily Mail
Keys to ADHD/OCD Diagnosed Children
And How To Make Them Closer To Normal
'In the past, I might have been guilty of giving in to Jake, because he was so persistent. . . .I was tired and it was easier to let him race around than try to contain him.'
Key #1: LAZY [deleted] PARENT
'His father was in the RAF and was away a lot when Jake was young. '
Key #2: MISSING FATHER
'He'd run around knocking all the cups out of the other children's hands. The staff would strap him into a chair to keep him still. . . .In the past, children like Jake would have just been called naughty, but I believe there is a chemical imbalance in their brains - perhaps they have too much adrenaline.
Key #3: Failure to understand that boys are different, and will run around like monkeys if allowed
'Then, on the way home, tears would be sliding silently down his face. He was utterly miserable. . . .I'd relied on the medical profession - of which I am a part - to give me the best advice. . . .But I looked at Jake and thought: "This can't be right. You can't go on like this".'
Extremely Important: The mother finally buys a clue and understands she is [deleted]ing up.
A year after her divorce, Yvonne had met John, who became her second husband. He took a no-nonsense approach to Jake.
The cure: A real man in a boy's life. NOT the same as a sperm donor.
Once branded as 'hopelessly disruptive', Jake is taking Btec courses in advanced maths, IT, engineering and travel & tourism. He spends his spare time mending computers for friends and family.
What is remarkable about Jake is that he appears cured.
His mother doesn't think that is because he spent three years on Ritalin and a similar drug, dexanphetamin
The mother did what your great-grandmother did. Congratulations to Yvonne Dixon for saving her son, and to her new husband for being a catalyst for change, and to Jake for no longer being out of control, on purpose.
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I don't believe in ADHD. No, you don't have it, either. I don't care what your quack doctor says, you don't. What you have is a lack of internal control over yourself. Take a Karate class and call me in 6 months is Dr. Laura's standard response.
Boys will be boys, and they will misbehave. You MUST be firm AND consistent with them, or they will "go bad" or be put on mind-altering drugs. Do we know what the drugs do to their developing brains? No, but it makes them sit down and shut the [deleted] up like a good little girl and we can get on with class so it must be alright.
My son and daughter are well behaved and we frequently get comments on how lucky we are.
Luck my rear end. We work hard to have good kids. The Bible says to train them, not to let them run you. Yes it is hard. Yes it is emotionally taxing. Yes "it hurts me more than it hurts you" sometimes. But you know what? It's worth the effort. At the end of a decade or so, there will be a few more good, productive members of society out there because we busted hump for years when they were young.
If you girls think you have it tough out there in the working world you are deluded and deceived. Being a Mother and Homemaker (not an egg donor who drops the brats off every day) is the most physically and emotionally taxing, stressful job you could ever have. And the most rewarding.
So there.
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